“So like are you going to get like an arranged marriage?”White girls (via justyouraveragedesi)
No but really, two of my friends (sisters) had arranged marriages the younger one just recently with way older guys and they are really unhappy and her husband beats her. (As their parents did too).
Arranged marriages ain’t always bad but in some cases the “white girl” has friends that are going through hell and asks out of concern. So if you get asked a question like that please don’t immedietly think it is meant as an insult and explain your reason why you think it was an inappropriate question to them and hopefully they’ll listen and understand.
I lost contact to them 2 months ago and am really scared for them and seeing as this is put like “White gurls durr, don’t understand shit so racist bluh” shit I feel really hurt and comments like that make it look like that is not a problem in our modern times anymore but in some places it still is!
Please, I know to those of you that are fortunate enough to have understanding nice parents questions like that are annoying and look like insults and I bet some ignorant people actually mean these questions like that but there are people who worry and for a good reason!
Please, please consider this. (via gnacat)
White people pretending like they know more about my culture than I do
It’s horrifying that I’m not the only one facing this, that white people not only romanticize the fuck out of our religion and culture, appropriate it, but now have taken to trying to teach us how it works instead.
idk how to react - it’s kinda too ridiculous to be real.
"Some people still prefer the arranged marriage, especially in the countryside where tradition is still strong. The thought is that your parents know you very well, and will make the decision based on experience and not emotion. The divorce rate with arranged marriages is lower, because both families are heavily involved and there are many people committed to making the match work. But the tradition is on the way out. It used to be that you didn’t even see your wife until your wedding day, and you fell in love after your wedding, as you learned to support and care for each other. But today there’s Whatsapp and Facebook, so keeping two people apart is almost impossible. ‘Love marriages’ are becoming much more popular than arranged marriages, and even arranged marriages involve much more interaction than they used to. Many families still choose to uphold the appearance of an arrangement. Their children will come to them and say: ‘I fell in love.’ And they’ll say: ‘OK, let us arrange it.’"
(noun) Jan/jaan is one of those specials words which lends itself across cultures and languages as a term of endearment and affection meaning, love, dear, heart, and life in East Asia. Arab/Persian: In Arabic, jan represents beloved one or dear. The Persian origins of this word mean life, equivalent to the Punjabi and Hindi definition. Calling a person your jaan, in comparison to the Arab and Persian culture, in South East Asian countries is an act of true love and intimiacy, and not used as liberally as the Persian connotation. Its true origins stem from Sanskrit. In Urdu you often refer to your lover and those your are close to as “meri jaan [meh-ree jaan],” also meaning my life, and my dear. It has a deeper emotional meaning than merely calling someone your love, or sweetheart; it is used in the essence of true love. (via wordsnquotes)love-eat-write)